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“Amanda” grew up in a family who often yelled and argued. She learned to hide in her room and play to avoid becoming part of frequent conflict. When things got heated, she’d stay quiet. When her older brother got in trouble, she made ...

Building a family can often be approached by couples as a checklist or timeline-structured progression of events. “We’ll marry, buy a home and have 2 children.” The first child may come as planned, but their plan may be interrupted wh...

They met at a family reunion, but neither belonged to the family.  She came with her best friend, who’d begged her to come along and be a buffer between her and her mom.  He came with his racquetball buddy, who was hoping to persuade hi...

Body-focused repetitive behaviors are difficult to define. trichotillomania (hair-pulling) was only included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) in 1987, while excoriation "skin-picking" disorder was only added in the fifth edition in 2013. ...

Many couples come to couples therapy to talk about a problem in their relationship.  Sometimes what brings them is a sexual issue but often that is not their main issue.  One common question that people often have is, will you have to talk ab...

Anger. That burning rage that is impossible to ignore. It’s not always a bad thing. It’s a natural reaction to a perceived threat or injustice. It is a strong, intense, and uncomfortable feeling meant to wake up your system and alert you th...

Sometimes I talk to my body. By sometimes, I mean, quite a lot. Yes, I mean actual conversations, as in, “Hey body, it’s Becca here, I have some things I need to tell you.” I just had a very long conversation with her (since I am fema...

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I continue to read David Schnarch, this time working on Constructing the Sexual Crucible.  It was published in 1991 and is much more of a textbook for therapists than the other books I have mentioned.  If you are looking for something to read...

A new study from the University of Oxford revealed playing the computer game Tetris may help prevent the development of post traumatic stress disorder, following motor vehicle crashes. The randomized control trial included 71 people who prese...