Saturday, February 24, 2018

“Mundane” is not “Insignificant”

The courtship had been romance-novel perfect.  There were grand gestures – he filled her apartment with long-stemmed red roses; she packed a gourmet picnic basket and drove him to a secluded beach.  He picked her up after work one ...

How Detachment Works with Difficult People

How Detachment Works With Difficult People You're tired of living with an addict but can't leave. You can’t let go of your loved one’s bad choices. Your sister is hanging onto an abusive guy, and you can’t stand it. These are all ...

Why Are Toilet Seats Such a Big Deal?

Probably as long as there have been sit-down toilets, women have been trying to get men to put the seat down when they’re done.  Women can get pretty exercised about the subject and men often blow it off as unimportant.   Within any giv...

Common Relationship Mistakes and Solutions

Johannes Kieding, LMSW     Common Relationship Mistakes and Solutions   If you desire more fulfillment in your relationships, if you want a sense of closeness, togetherness, and less emotional isolation and friction with those you c...

I Love Him Most of the Time

Blake Lively loves Ryan Reynolds all the time, despite what she says. Blake Lively was quoted as saying: “I am in love with him most...

Five Questions to Ask Oneself When a Relationship Ends

Every person reacts differently when a relationship comes to a close. Some do not want to even think of another relationship and others want to start (or already started) a new relationship ASAP. So, the big question, when are we ready? Are we ever rea...

Heads Up, People. Literally.

I spend a lot of time talking about phones with my clients, especially my younger ones. We’re either discussing the nuances of phone culture - sexting, Snapping, Finsta rules, cyber-bullying, ghosting…..or they show me pictures of their pe...

Establishing Healthy Boundaries

Do you find it hard to say no? If you have to change your plans do you feel guilty or that you are letting others down? Would you rather keep your feelings to yourself so you don't "make waves"? These are common feelings for many people. Fortunately, p...

A Clean Slate

Marie and Luke were in unfortunately familiar territory in this fight. Mostly they got along okay; but then something relatively small would happen and it would seem to set off a bigger fight. It was if the fight was about something bigger than what t...

Lovers (the Movie), Boredom, and Where Are You?

As a couples therapist, I have an interest in things that have to do with couples.  A new movie, Lovers, is about a long-time couple in which both people are having affairs but their own relationship starts to sizzle again.  There was a revie...

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