Tuesday, December 11, 2018

Coping with Loss

Each of us will face some sort of loss during our lifetime. Loss can include the passing away of a loved one, the loss of a job, divorce, decrease in mobility or body functions, and the loss of self after a life transition. There are many reactions to ...

Intimacy in Couples and Couples Therapy

Intimacy is an issue that comes up for many couples in couples therapy.  How intimate should a couple be with one another?  That is not a question that the therapist has an answer to, but rather one that the couple works out, and they may nee...

An Ode to Mirror Neurons

This blog post is inspired by my recent audio-book indulgence, Love Sense by Dr. Sue Johnson and musical artist Justin Timberlake's song, "Mirrors".  Pop Culture meets Attachment Science. Dr. Sue Johnson is mostly correct when she share...

3 Things to Avoid During a Divorce Involving Children

According to the American Psychological Association about 40-50% of first time marriages in the United States end in divorce, with the divorce rate increasing in subsequent marriages. With divorce rates so high, it is likely that yo...

Do I Have to Talk About Sex in Couples Therapy?

Many couples come to couples therapy to talk about a problem in their relationship.  Sometimes what brings them is a sexual issue but often that is not their main issue.  One common question that people often have is, will you have to talk ab...

Aggression for Self-Protection

It turned out to be one of their ugliest fights ever.  She was really upset about something that he’d done and was telling him calmly but clearly how hurt and angry she was.  He seemed to be listening.  He even looked ashamed of wh...

Let’s Talk about a Healthy Sexual Lifestyle

“Healthy lifestyle” – You hear this often in the media, but what about a having a healthy sexual self?   Let’s discuss what healthy sexuality is and how do you achieve it.   Healthy Sexuality may have different mea...

The Chatter of an Anxious Mind

"Nothing I do will ever be good enough". "Why doesn't he like me." "I'm going to be alone the rest of my life". "I always find a way to mess things up." These are examples of chatter in an anxious mind.   When your mind is anxious you are operat...

Will It Be Important to Talk About Sex in Couples Therapy?

There are many valuable books about sex, sex therapy, and their role in a couple's relationship and in couples therapy. Some good examples include Passionate Marriage, Intimacy and Desire, and Resurrecting Sex, all of which were written by David Schnar...

Trouble Sleeping?

Why can't I sleep?   Trouble sleeping, or insomnia, happens to more than 3 million Americans yearly. Insomnia may be caused by biological factors, medical and psychiatric conditions, ineffective sleep habits and substance use, includin...

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