Monday, July 22, 2019

The Honor of Trauma Bonds

I may get some flak for my perspective. However, at this point I’ve dealt with this topic to the point that I think I’ve had enough. There is an underlying system of spousal/partner abuse I have observed with many of the couples I see. For ...

The Struggle to Repair the Past Through Limerance

Limerence, a term coined in 1977 by psychologist Dorothy Tennov, is an involuntary interpersonal state that involves strong sexual or intense emotional attraction to...

How to Break Up with a Narcissist

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The Uneasy Side of Compliments

The Uneasy Side of Compliments. Mary Lamia, Ph.D.   You may want to receive a compliment from someone you value. But can you accept it? Praise, admiration, or appreciation may be difficult to embrace, regardless of how much you desire or seek i...

Living with an Anxious Spouse

Living with an Anxiety Disorder is typically associated with a great deal of personal distress, but it can be difficult on the partners of those...

What’s the Problem with “No Problem?”

What’s the Problem with “No Problem?”   By Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW. LCSW   When you express thanks to someone and then hear, “No Problem,” how do you feel? Maybe it’s fine with you. Maybe you yourself ...

If I Were a Police Chief

I am a former police officer. In my eight years of service I served in many roles of my former agency. I was a member of the Special Response Team, Street Drug Interdiction, Gang Unit, Detective, Undercover, School Resource Officer and patrol. I am als...

Dating and Spirituality: Keeping the Hope Alive

By Dr. Debbie Magids Dating, to find love, is at the top of the list for everyone and anyone who’s not coupled.  And difficulty finding him or her is what causes the most people to end up in my (and most shrinks’) office. Now, I&...

Should I Keep a Secret from My Spouse?

Should I Keep a Secret from My Spouse? By Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW   If you think you need to confess every one of your secrets to your spouse, think again.  In a good marriage, we can be ourselves more with our partner than with any...

Why is it so hard to end an unhealthy relationship?

My last article pointed out 50 reasons why people stay in unhealthy relationships. Research shows that it is hard to end an unhealthy relationship....

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