Friday, December 14, 2018

The Honor of Trauma Bonds

I may get some flak for my perspective. However, at this point I’ve dealt with this topic to the point that I think I’ve had enough. There is an underlying system of spousal/partner abuse I have observed with many of the couples I see. For ...

How to Break Up with a Narcissist

(Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s new book “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life” (Three Rivers Press, 2011) by Judith Orloff...

The Uneasy Side of Compliments

The Uneasy Side of Compliments. Mary Lamia, Ph.D.   You may want to receive a compliment from someone you value. But can you accept it? Praise, admiration, or appreciation may be difficult to embrace, regardless of how much you desire or seek i...

The Struggle to Repair the Past Through Limerance

Limerence, a term coined in 1977 by psychologist Dorothy Tennov, is an involuntary interpersonal state that involves strong sexual or intense emotional attraction to...

Living with an Anxious Spouse

Living with an Anxiety Disorder is typically associated with a great deal of personal distress, but it can be difficult on the partners of those...

What’s the Problem with “No Problem?”

What’s the Problem with “No Problem?”   By Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW. LCSW   When you express thanks to someone and then hear, “No Problem,” how do you feel? Maybe it’s fine with you. Maybe you yourself ...

If I Were a Police Chief

I am a former police officer. In my eight years of service I served in many roles of my former agency. I was a member of the Special Response Team, Street Drug Interdiction, Gang Unit, Detective, Undercover, School Resource Officer and patrol. I am als...

Should I Keep a Secret from My Spouse?

Should I Keep a Secret from My Spouse? By Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW   If you think you need to confess every one of your secrets to your spouse, think again.  In a good marriage, we can be ourselves more with our partner than with any...

Don’t Waste Your Time (It’s Precious)

Don’t Waste Your Time (It’s Precious)   Please, don’t waste my time! If you do, don’t expect me to hang out for very long with you. And don’t expect me to spend time with you in the future. I confess, I discriminat...

Are You a Relationship Empath?

In my practice and workshops I’m struck by how many sensitive people come to me wanting a long term soul mate. Personally, I can relate to this. Yet, despite online dating services, expensive match-makers, friend fix-ups, and blind dates, they ...

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