Saturday, February 23, 2019

Should I Keep a Secret from My Spouse?

Should I Keep a Secret from My Spouse? By Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW   If you think you need to confess every one of your secrets to your spouse, think again.  In a good marriage, we can be ourselves more with our partner than with any...
Foundation of a good relationship

The Foundation Of A Good Relationship

There are many theories about what makes a good and lasting relationship. In our present age, where romance seems to dominate the way we look at a long term partnership, many criteria have been called absolutely necessary for the survival of romance. ...

Heads Up, People. Literally.

I spend a lot of time talking about phones with my clients, especially my younger ones. We’re either discussing the nuances of phone culture - sexting, Snapping, Finsta rules, cyber-bullying, ghosting…..or they show me pictures of their pe...

What My Husband Wished He Had Known Before We Got Married

The other day, over coffee and a Duolingo break, I asked my husband “what are some things you wish you had known about marriage…before we got married?” Yes, I went there. Even though we have been together for years (nearing a decade...

The Struggle to Repair the Past Through Limerance

Limerence, a term coined in 1977 by psychologist Dorothy Tennov, is an involuntary interpersonal state that involves strong sexual or intense emotional attraction to...

Sex and The Older Couple

In 1962 Helen Gurley Brown created a publishing hit with Sex and the Single Girl, a work of non-fiction that advocated for women’s financial independence and sexual experience prior to or without marriage. It sold 2 million copies in 3 weeks, cle...

How Control Could Be Killing Your Relationship

“We communicate worse than anyone I have ever seen. I thought my parents were bad…I never expected we would end up here. Every attempt I make to understand her is shot down with more criticism, hate, and blame than I think I’ve ever ...

Why is it so hard to end an unhealthy relationship?

My last article pointed out 50 reasons why people stay in unhealthy relationships. Research shows that it is hard to end an unhealthy relationship....

Your Parents or Partner: Who Are You Married To

  Before I became a couples therapist, I looked at conflicted couples (and my own conflicted relationships) and saw pain, insecurity, desperation, and little hope. Today, I see conflicted couples (and my own marital challenges) as golden opport...

Learning to Listen

Most of us have had miscommunication in our relationships at some point in time, whether it was with a parent, a child, a partner,...

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