Friday, December 14, 2018

Establishing Healthy Boundaries

Do you find it hard to say no? If you have to change your plans do you feel guilty or that you are letting others down? Would you rather keep your feelings to yourself so you don't "make waves"? These are common feelings for many people. Fortunately, p...

A Clean Slate

Marie and Luke were in unfortunately familiar territory in this fight. Mostly they got along okay; but then something relatively small would happen and it would seem to set off a bigger fight. It was if the fight was about something bigger than what t...

Lovers (the Movie), Boredom, and Where Are You?

As a couples therapist, I have an interest in things that have to do with couples.  A new movie, Lovers, is about a long-time couple in which both people are having affairs but their own relationship starts to sizzle again.  There was a revie...

How Do I Know When It’s Time To Leave

How Do I Know When it’s Time To Leave? Maybe you're on the fence about leaving a relationship. Worry and fear keep you up at night. You wonder, what will happen if you leave? Will the kids be ok? Will you be okay on your own? These questio...

The Struggle to Repair the Past Through Limerance

Limerence, a term coined in 1977 by psychologist Dorothy Tennov, is an involuntary interpersonal state that involves strong sexual or intense emotional attraction to...

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

When someone you care about is asking for support, it’s not always easy to know how to respond. It can be extremely tough helping loved ones through difficulties when you don't have the words. Often times we end up staying in the upset feelings w...

Sex and The Older Couple

In 1962 Helen Gurley Brown created a publishing hit with Sex and the Single Girl, a work of non-fiction that advocated for women’s financial independence and sexual experience prior to or without marriage. It sold 2 million copies in 3 weeks, cle...

Are Triggers Ruining Your Relationships?

Think about the last time you got really upset at your partner. Did your reaction surprise you or your partner? In these situations, it is important to look at the feelings that arise, especially feelings of anger because these are indicators of some d...

It’s Not You… It’s Them

Protecting yourself against people who drain you isn’t easy. You know who I’m talking about, right? They can be fun at times, but when you get home after hanging out with them, you’re tired - exhausted even. Sometimes you feel bad abo...
Foundation of a good relationship

The Foundation Of A Good Relationship

There are many theories about what makes a good and lasting relationship. In our present age, where romance seems to dominate the way we look at a long term partnership, many criteria have been called absolutely necessary for the survival of romance. ...

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