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Two Strikes in Couples Therapy

This feels like the most controversial topic to write about.  There is no known research about the topic, no known articles about it, no discussions with other professionals about it.  It is just something observed many times over the course ...

4 Behaviors That Lead Straight to Divorce

How to Save Your Marriage from These Relationship Killers. Wouldn’t it be great to have a crystal ball and to be able to see all the avoidable problems in your marriage or relationship and do whatever it takes to keep love alive? Actually, than...

The Courage of Therapy

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”      - David Richo One of the most courageous acts a human can make is to accept their flaws and look within themselves to take the appropriat...

It’s Not You… It’s Them

Protecting yourself against people who drain you isn’t easy. You know who I’m talking about, right? They can be fun at times, but when you get home after hanging out with them, you’re tired - exhausted even. Sometimes you feel bad abo...

Marriage in the 1950’s Was Easier

You may have seen it play out on TV shows. Dad gets home from work after 6 and is greeted by the aroma of pot roast and a warm kiss from Mom. The house is tidy. The kids play amongst themselves while Dad pours a drink.   Things have changed sinc...

Emotions Separate Us From Lizards

Any Fringe fans out there? Oops, I just gave away my inner Sci-Fi nerd by asking. If you’re not a fan or have never seen the series, it’s a smart and entertaining take on parallel universes and what could happen if they exist. However, you...

Reciprocity and Intimacy in Couples Therapy

Intimacy can be defined in many different ways.  One expectation that seems to often come up as couples move towards intimacy is the idea of reciprocity, that is, that if one person shares, the other has to also.  An example is: if I say I lo...

It’s A Shame: The Hidden Dark Side of Dieting

Most people who read my blog know how I feel about dieting.  I’m not a fan, to put it mildly. Diets don’t work.  They cause people to gain more weight in the long run.  They undermine our ability to think critically, causing ...

Secondary Infertility

Building a family can often be approached by couples as a checklist or timeline-structured progression of events. “We’ll marry, buy a home and have 2 children.” The first child may come as planned, but their plan may be interrupted wh...

Managing Emotional Trauma

As I am writing this blog, I can honestly tell you that I am “emotionally numb” today. The recent and increasing crime in our communities along with the ongoing police murders has me feeling emotionless. Many of us have encountered or wil...

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Sex and The Older Couple

In 1962 Helen Gurley Brown created a publishing hit with Sex and the Single Girl, a work of non-fiction that advocated for women’s financial independence and sexual experience prior to or without marriage. It sold 2 million copies in 3 weeks, cle...

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