Why Procrastination Should Not Be Linked with Failure


While many successful people can’t resist the urge to do things right away, countless others put things off until a deadline beckons them. High achievers put effort into their work and never miss deadlines, even though some may complete a task minutes before the cutoff point. What motivates successful people to get something done and do it well? For some people, motivation is fueled by the feeling of pride or reward for their efforts. Such imagery accesses our internal warehouse of emotional memories where pleasure associated with our efforts was previously felt. These emotional memories may involve anything from recently felt enjoyment about an accomplishment to long-forgotten excitement mirrored in the face of caregivers celebrating our first steps. Yet we are not solely motivated by anticipating positive feeling.

A marvel of evolution is that we are also motivated, and even driven to achieve, by negative emotions—a primary, powerful, and often misunderstood source of motivation. How does that work? Essentially, people are motivated to do something based on their desire to turn on emotions that are positive or to turn off the negative ones. It’s just a fundamental principle about how we function emotionally. Labeling emotions as positive or negative has little to do with their value, but instead involves how they motivate us through the ways they make us feel. Negative emotions like distress, fear, anger, disgust, and shame motivate us to do something to avoid experiencing them, or they urge us to behave in ways that will relieve their effects.

The activation of emotions also determines the behavior or procrastinators and non-procrastinators. The different timing of procrastinators and non-procrastinators to complete tasks has to do with when their emotions are activated and what activates them. Procrastinators who consistently complete tasks on time—even if it’s at the last moment—are motivated by emotions that are activated when a deadline is imminent. They are deadline driven. In contrast to procrastinators, task-driven non-procrastinators who are faced with uncompleted tasks feel compelled to take action right away. Motivated by their emotions to complete a task ahead of schedule and put it behind them, those who are successful attend to the quality of their work prior to scratching the task off their list. Thus, procrastinators are motivated by emotions that are activated by deadlines and task-driven non-procrastinators are motivated by emotions that are triggered by the task itself.

Motivational styles generally develop at a young age, and many people can link their particular style to memories of completing school assignments or everyday tasks. Early response patterns to emotion—such as when emotion was activated that motivated you to complete your homework, make your bed, or even brush your teeth —continue to influence how you tend to get things done throughout your life. You might assume you did these things simply because you were supposed to do them, only aware of thoughts such as, “I should make my bed.” However, I can assure you that emotion was present that motivated you to do it or not. These early life experiences, at some point, solidify into characteristic emotional responses to tasks and lead to a particular style of getting things done.

Importantly, how we learn from dealing with core emotions, to a great extent, makes us who we become. Since our biologically-based core emotions, when activated, are instantaneously filtered through our personal history, culture, and implicit memories where that emotion was previously activated, we are bound to be “messed up” in some of the ways we interpret our emotional lives. One example has to do with people who consistently fail, rather than succeed, to get things done. When a deadline passes, failure is not simply a result of procrastinating. Usually an entirely separate emotional issue or some other obstacle has interfered with the person completing their work. Unlike successful deadline-driven procrastinators, people who fail are often not motivated by their emotional responses to complete a task when a deadline looms. Rather, their emotional responses further disable them. When the deadline passes they blame failure on procrastinating rather than explore what’s really going on. Many therapists, teachers, family members, or self-help books also view failure as having to do with delay rather than recognize the more complex emotional issues impeding an individual’s success.

Emotional issues may also interfere with the success of non-procrastinators. These issues are often hidden because, while they do complete their work, the quality of what is produced may be poor. In addition, people who experience an urgency to get things done may find that their attention to tasks is at the expense of relaxing or engaging with others.

Contrary to popular belief, I have found that procrastination does not necessarily interfere with success. Those who wait are just as likely to be successful as people who complete tasks ahead of time. Thus, procrastination should not be linked with failure, just as early action should not be tied to success.  In later posts, I’ll be considering the ways in which both positive and negative emotions significantly influence our lives, provide motivation to get things done, and silently direct the decisions we make. This subject matter is discussed in detail in my book, What Motivates Getting Things Done: Procrastination, Emotions, and Success.


About Mary Lamia Ph.D.

Mary Lamia As clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst I work with adults, adolescents, and preteens in my Kentfield, California private practice. I am also a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. Teaching the public about the psychology of human behavior has been something I've done for over 35 years. For nearly a decade I hosted a weekly call-in talk show, KidTalk with Dr. Mary, on Radio Disney stations, and have provided opinions in many media interviews and discussions. My books include: Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings; Understanding Myself: A Kid's Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings; and The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself From Your Need to Rescue Others. Forthcoming books include Procrastinator Or Not: Making the Most of the Motivation That Drives You and The Upside of Shame. For more information, please visit my website, www.marylamia.com.