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The Unattainable Standard For Men and Boys

By Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW     Picture a twenty-four-year-old adorable, intelligent but anxious and insecure young man. Joe, as I will call him, often feels frightened. If he were to pause for a moment and check in with his physica...

Stop Blaming (Yourself)

By Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW     In the words of Brene Brown, “Blame is a way we discharge pain. “   We blame others, hurling insults and digging our heels into the cushy comfort of self-righteous indignation. &nbs...

Are You a Perfectionist or Inner Slave Driver

Your inner slave driver must be tamed if you want to have a happy, balanced life.   Your inner slave driver is the part of you that’s addicted to workaholism, rushing, and going nonstop until you drop. If you don’t put in a ten-hour ...

How Being Yourself Makes Your Relationship Better

You may have noticed that today’s dating scene is full of people attempting to be what everyone else wants them to be so they are acceptable, datable, and lovable. This may be your roommate, your best friend, your brother or sister, or even you...

Break-ups: Do Men Hurt as Much As Woman?

Does Women or Men experience the same pain? Mary Lamia, Ph.D.   Are women more woebegone than men when a romantic involvement ends? As a psychologist I have my own views on the subject. Nevertheless, I decided to consult other pros about the qu...

Is it Jealousy or Envy?

Are you experiencing jealousy or envy? Mary Lamia, Ph.D. Are you craving attention from a person whose focus is on someone else? Do you desire attributes that are possessed by another? When you experience jealousy or envy, you have measured your...

Mind-Body Connections For Anxiety Reduction

There is a terrible feeling most of us have experienced before during stressful times. It’s that vague sense of dread that something is going to go wrong and that we should do something but don’t know what that is. The heart starts racing o...

The Boys in the Boat—Good Marriage Advice

By Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW What does a great marriage look like to you? A couple living in harmony for a lifetime of romance, intimacy, and friendship? Or does “happily married” sound to you like an impossible dream? Cynicism about marriage is common these days. Fairytales...

How Gratitude Can Make You More Attracted To Your Partner

In relationships, the tendency to criticize and search for shortcomings in our partner can often supersedes all other thought processes. Unfortunate, really. Or…perhaps, an opportunity to rediscover our partner in a new light. Taking the time to...

The Honor of Trauma Bonds

I may get some flak for my perspective. However, at this point I’ve dealt with this topic to the point that I think I’ve had enough. There is an underlying system of spousal/partner abuse I have observed with many of the couples I see. For ...

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